As a bereaved parent I am blessed to have 3 beautiful & healthy Rainbow Babies. My first born baby girl Anna was born still at 39 weeks 5 day gestation. You can read her story here
Anna’s Story – My Daughter’s Life Mattered!!
Definition of Rainbow Baby
“A “rainbow baby” is a baby that is born following a miscarriage or still birth.
In the real world, a beautiful and bright rainbow follows a storm and gives hope of things getting better. The rainbow is more appreciated having just experienced the storm in comparison.
I am a Mom. First and foremost. My children mean the world to me and they are my priority. I love taking care of them, teaching them and watching them grow. I have talked about 2 out of the 4 of my children so today I want to tell you about my “Middle Child”. Here is a list of Traits I found that statistically describe a middle child …
- Great Team Players
- Successful Leaders
- Excellent Negotiators
- Can see all sides of a question
- Judge reactions well
- Peace makers
- Are attuned to the needs of others
- Dislike conflict
- Open to new ideas
- Skillful manipulators
- Willing to compromise
- More patient
List of Middle Child Traits Found Here
Today I am just thinking about how to build a connection with the people who read my blog. The only way I can think to do that is to get a little personal. I mean how else do you get to know someone unless they tell you about themselves. Although my life in general in not anywhere near red carpet worthy I do have a few things that I absolutely love.
- I love Sweet & Salty together!! I’m talking about things like Ice cream and pretzels or ice cream and hot fresh French fries. Anything really. Salted Caramel and chocolate. I just love the 2 together and you can’t have one with out the other.
Friendships are Wonderful, Amazing & Difficult for me.
I am very sensitive person. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I feel too much! I think too much! I worry too much! I read way too deep into things people do and usually take is too heart when really it meant nothing at all. I am an anxious person so somethings just eek me out of certain situations. For example: I am a self diagnosed germ-a-phobe. So if you or your family are sick. You won’t be seeing me for about 2 weeks. I don’t want you to share any of that with me. But even with my struggles with depression and anxiety I can usually put on a fake smile that hides my many insecurities and be outgoing and bubbly. But that is exhausting for me some days. I have so much to be thankful. But sometimes I’ll have a random panic attack in the pots & pans aisle at Wal-Mart for no reason what so ever. Yup, I can be a hot mess!!
No Really….Please form a single file line for all of you who want to be my friend. (Sarcasm) Yep, I’ll just tuck my crazy back into my pocket and save all that for another day.
Hello World – I am back after some technical difficulties…
Our monitor stopped working randomly yesterday. But today we are now the proud owners of a new computer monitor.
I have been reading up on how have a great blog that people will want to read. A lot of the articles I read say that you are to have a “niche” and to stick with that one specific thing. I am not really sure that I agree with that. I like variety and I think if you stick to only one specialty that you will quickly get bored and run out material to write about. I am not really an expert in any special area. I want share my experiences. Share stories that have happened to me or my family. Share tips with you that I have found that makes life a little easier. Write about Anything & Everything Really. I do not really “plan” a post but just sit down and write about what comes to my mind that day.
I’ve decided my blogs niche is variety.
I just like to write. I like writing about lots of different things. Maybe this idea will come back to bite me in the butt but at this point I am happy to write about what ever comes to mind.
A long…long time ago…
(OK, Not that long. I am not that old)
I was an 18 year old girl who lived in the mid west, Minnesota to be exact. I was not happy with my life. I had just graduated High School that June and I was working 2nd shift full-time in a candy factory. I have and have always had a difficult relationship with my Mom. At this particular time in my life it was at its worst. We both had our faults and were each to stubborn to work on our many difficult issues. I had been suffering with an eating disorder throughout my last year of school & that was quickly continuing to wither me away. I was not in any way healthy in body or spirit. I was depressed and didn’t even know it. I was feeling lost, feeling like I didn’t belong and couldn’t find a way outta my home town fast enough.
I have been a Stay At Home Mom for 15 years. It is my dream job. Than after losing A I didn’t want to miss a thing with my other kids. My husband has supported me staying home since day one and I love him for it. I am very grateful and appreciate my husband who works very hard to support his family. I have learned a few things about saving money through the years, our trials and some desperate times.
Thrift Stores – Clothes are usually much cheaper there than retail and kids will just out grow their clothes in a year anyway! Yes, you sometimes have to put a little extra effort into finding the good stuff but it is worth the savings.
Cleaning is my niche. I love to clean. I clean when my anxiety is high, because I have some O.C.D. in me, I also love having a clean home and having everything in its place. Basically besides the mountains of laundry I do for my family of 5 I clean. The easiest way for me to list is in alphabetical order. I do some of these thing everyday and some one or twice a week or weekly.
- Always go to bed with an empty kitchen sink
- Be willing to delegate your family members to help you. All my kids have daily chores to help clean our house! We live together so we clean together!!
- Clear One Cluttered spot everyday or every other day to stop you from being overwhelmed with too many cluttered areas.
- Dust – Yes I know it just comes back but it makes the furniture shine pretty for a little while.
- Everyday take a quick walk through your main living areas and do a quick clean up- Pick up random toys, mail, things from other rooms and put them away.
- Fold the laundry that you went through the hassle of washing and drying and have each person who can walk in your household put their own clothes away.
- Get into those bathroom and sanitize. No one likes cleaning bathrooms but they are gross I mean think of what we do there. EW!
- Have and keep some kind of cleaning routine throughout the week. For me Mondays are my BIG cleaning day.Then all I have to do is maintain throughout the rest of the week.
I missed a my blogging day yesterday. I am not sure how many noticed. I was having a very hard day dealing with my anxiety & just didn’t feel like writing. I’m here to be honest. Today is a new day and so here I am trying to find my way in the world.
As I sit her with my head filled with random worries I wonder how other women make this Mom thing look soooo easy. I feel like so many have all their proverbial ducks in a row. Their house is clean, their children are fed, clean, thriving, groceries bought with out having to check the bank to see if there is even enough money to buy any food after paying bills. Of course the bills are always paid on time
and there is even extra fun money to do with what you really want to do. Of course now at almost 5 p.m. dinner is prepped and cooking on the stove. I don’t know about you but I don’t think all that has fallen perfectly into place on any single day in my adult life. Most of my days are just shy of a hot mess. Because if you are me, you are the lady that has had that horrifically awkward moment when you did forget to check the bank account. But you go to the store and fill an entire cart full of groceries. Once finished you load all your things onto the conveyer belt. Then the sweet cashier finishes swiping all your food & she tells you your total. But when you swipe your debit card……… it’s declined.
Hello 🙂 My name is Heidi. I have been a Stay At Home Mom for 15 year & I’m the Red Headed Housewife. I am 30…something. (LOL) I actually do have red hair and blue eyes. I also have the fiery personality to go along with the hair. I was born and raised in the Midwest. Minnesota to be exact. No, I no longer have the long “OOO” accent. Hehe I am the youngest in my family & have 2 older brothers. My parents and brothers still live in Minnesota.
My husband and I met online long before it was the cool thing to do. We met in an actual chat room online 18 years ago. The ironic thing is during that very first conversation I asked him jokingly “So when we are going to get married”. We exchanged phone numbers that night and from then on we talked on the phone getting to know each other. We spoke daily for at least 6 month. Then he decided to drive half way across the country to meet me. From the day he arrived in my home town & when we met I knew we were meant for other. Cliché but true. We have been together ever since. I was 18 when I moved to the east coast to live with him. We have been married 16 years & have 4 children. We have been through so much together but we always pull through closer and stronger. We have lost our home, my husband has lost his job twice, we could of been homeless but thanks to family we were not, we have buried our first child, we have moved 5 times, we have a child on the autism spectrum & we are raising 3 happy and healthy children. We have had a crazy rollercoaster ride together so far but I am glad he is still by my side loving me every day.
Random things about me. I am very sensitive, I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can be loud and love being with people. I have a hard time taking a compliment. I don’t like being in a large crowds of people. I love to clean but I hate mopping floors. I have anxiety and depression but can hide it very well except on my hard days. I have a bit of O.C.D when it comes to cleaning. I always have hand sanitizer on me. ALWAYS. My husband is my rock and I love him more than words. I love my kids more than life itself. I love being a SAHM and it is my dream job. When I am having a hard anxiety/depressed day I don’t go out. I like to write so that is why I am trying out blogging. I have dealt with anorexia. I worry a lot. I try to be a good person and respect is very important to me. I am a Daddy’s girl and have a difficult relationship with my Mom. I drive a navy blue minivan but I am not a soccer mom. LOL We have a 5 year old cockapoo dog. His name is Charlie and he is my shadow and my furry best friend!! I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.
These are a few of my favorite things…
- Favorite Color – Purple
- Favorite Food- Hot Fresh French Fries with a milkshake 😉
- Favorite Dinner – Roast Beef with mashed potatoes and corn on the cob.
- Favorite Movie – The Birdcage
- Favorite Actor – Robin Williams ( Still heartbroken over his death)
- Favorite Drink – Coffee / Cherry Pepsi/ Iced Blue Raspberry Kool-Aid
- Favorite Store – Target
- Favorite Season – Winter
- Favorite T.V. Show – Criminal Minds
- Favorite Hobby – Scrapbooking
- Favorite Junk Food – Donuts
- Favorite Fruit – Oranges
- Favorite Cereal – Froot Loops
- Favorite Snack – Ice cream
- Favorite Fast Food – Chick-Fila
I am new to the blog world but I think I like it. I hope you like my blog as well. Please Come back as often as you can to read, like and comment on my blog. I would greatly appreciate it 🙂 Thank You!!
The Red Headed Housewife